OK, so THE WIFE has a plan to be in our children's memory long after she is gone.
When she passes she has left instructions for me to have her ashes crushed into a diamond which we will then set into a ring. The ring will be given to our oldest son. We figure the conversation with his future bride will go like this:
Andrew: Will you marry me? (Holding out THE RING)
Future Wife: Oh yes Andrew!
Andrew: Here take this ring, it was my mother.
Future Wife: Oh how sweet! This was your mother's ring you say? How sweet!
Andrew: Uhhhhh. No, actually I said it WAS my mother.
Future Wife: EEEEEEEEKKKKKKKKKKK!!!!!!!